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Twins Separated at Birth Had to Have Their Marriage Annulled

A happily married couple has had to have their marriage annulled after DNA results revealed they were actually brother and sister twins!

The twins were separated at birth and went to different families.  They were brought up without any knowledge of their adoption and never knew they had other siblings.

The couple’s identity is being kept secret along with the details of their relationship to protect them.  It is unknown how or where they met, when the marriage took place or how long they were actually married.

The case was heard at a special hearing being closed doors in London where a High Court judge rules that the marriage had never validly existed.

Lord Alton, a crossbench peer and a former Liberal Democrat MP, raised the couple's case during a House of Lords debate on the Human Fertility and Embryology Bill in December.

"They were never told that they were twins," he told the Lords.

"They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of the marriage that they entered into and all the issues of their separation."

He told the BBC News website that their story raises the wider issue of the importance of strengthening the rights of children to know the identities of their biological parents.

"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out," he said.

"And if you don't know you are biologically related to someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."

Adopted Children need Access to Birth Records

This bizarre case only highlights even more how important is it for adopted children to be able to have information regarding their biological parents and if the House of Lords vote on a bill that will allow children to have full access to their birth records, this is something that thankfully will not happen in the future.

Pam Hodgkins, chief executive officer of the charity Adults Affected by Adoption (NORCAP) said there had been previous cases of separated siblings being attracted to each other.

"We have a resistance, a very strong incest taboo where we are aware that someone is a biological relative," she said.

"But when we are unaware of that relationship, we are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves.

"And of course there is unlikely to be anyone more similar to any individual than their sibling."

Mo O'Reilly, director of child placement for the British Association for Adoption and Fostering, said the situation was traumatic for the people involved, but incredibly rare.

"Thirty or 40 years ago it would have been more likely that twins be separated and, brought up without knowledge of each other," she said.

"This sad case illustrates why, over the last 20-30 years, the shift to openness in adoption was so important," Ms O'Reilly added.

Adopted children need to know who they are and where they come from – the House of Lords bill may soon change their rights.